Mom: Why haven't you gone to eat yet? I noticed you've been looking in the mirror since you got back.
Luna: I had a check-up today and found out I gained a lot of weight since last semester. I’ve turned into a ball. I can’t eat even a bite of my canned cat food tonight.
Mom: I think you look adorable with your round shape!
Luna: But I feel like a ball, and I look so ugly.
Mom: Let me ask you this: if Poppy got rounder, would you say the same things to him?
Luna: Of course not! Poppy is my best friend. I’d love him no matter how he looks.
Mom: And if Poppy didn't do well on a test or lost in a competition, would you criticize him? Would you call him a failure?
Luna: I definitely wouldn’t.
Mom: What would you do then?
Luna: I would tell him I understand how he feels, and I’d comfort him.
Mom: So, why can't you treat yourself the same way you treat your friend?
Luna: What do you mean?
Mom: I mean, if you can understand and be kind to your friend about the same thing, you should also be kind to yourself.
Mom: Now, imagine if you were your best friend and he was criticizing himself for gaining weight. What would you say to him?
Luna: Hmm, I’d say every cat has its unique look. No matter if you’re tall, short, thin, or round, black or white, it’s all you. And being round is cute too. You’re already amazing.
Luna: Mom, I get it now. I think I look cute just the way I am. I don’t need to diet anymore. Let's go eat dinner.
Mom: Yes, let’s eat a big bowl!
This conversation beautifully illustrates the importance of self-compassion. It's easy to be our own harshest critics, but we need to remember to treat ourselves with the same kindness and understanding we extend to our friends. By doing so, we can foster a healthier, more positive self-image.
Luna learns to appreciate her unique appearance and decides she doesn’t need to change herself to be loved or accepted. This story serves as a gentle reminder for all of us to be kinder to ourselves and to embrace our individuality. Overcoming self-criticism isn't about ignoring our flaws but about recognizing our worth despite them.
So next time you find yourself being overly critical, pause and ask yourself: "What would I say to a friend in this situation?" Chances are, you’ll find that you deserve the same compassion and encouragement you would give to them.